Navigating life’s losses (4)
"A time to seek, and a time to lose; There is a time to keep, and a time to throw away; Ecclesiastes 3.6 What more do our children need from us when they are sad? (1) Our honesty. They should know that we are also hurting. When they see you crying but you tell them, "I'm fine," they're confused. They think that either you are not feeling the pain, and the tears mean nothing, or you are not being real with them. They need to know the real you, so they can be real with you and trust you with their sorrows. (2) Our awareness of their feelings without being defensive about them. For them, as far as you are concerned, there is “a time to weep…mourn…lose” (vv. 4, 6 NKJV). God has made all these experiences "appropriate in their time" (v.11 NAS). Don't stifle or invalidate their sadness, anger, and depression. It's part of their God-given humanity, and will help them become balanced, compassionate adults. (3) Sensitive listening. Children l