How to appreciate an imperfect spouse. part 3
3) Accept the Reality of Your Own Sin. “Gary,” the email read, “What does a wife do when her husband doesn’t love her like Christ loves the church?” The woman then shocked me by giving the rest of her story: “Before I got married, I read many Harlequin romances and I thought marriage would be like that. For a while it was, but then things cooled off. A couple years later, I found that exciting love once again by having an affair; but after a number of months, that too, cooled off.” At this point, she threw herself into the church, but after a while even God became boring. That’s when she “fell” into yet another affair that—no surprise, here—also eventually cooled off. In the aftermath of those two affairs, in which she wounded and humiliated her husband about as deeply as a wife can, she wrote to me, consumed with how her husband wasn’t loving her like Christ loves the church. Admittedly, this is an extreme example, but all of us have hearts that tend toward dismissing our